Entrepreneur of the Week Jonathan Fabin # Post2
I will start by saying that all I will tell here are personal experiences from my relationship with my wife and the process we went through. I believe that family and relationships is the infrastructure and engine that enables growth in every area of life, so it is important for me to share our experience.
Liron and I got married in 2018, and like any young couple we had a dream of an apartment in the center. One in which we can raise a family, settle down and invest in a mortgage. We were no different from many other couples in this concept.
At the time I was working as a mechanical engineer and Liron had just finished a degree in nutrition. We had 0 investments and 0 motivation to create something beyond the monthly salaries that were promised to us at the end of our academic beret campaign. We lived in a reality that was "forced" on us. A reality that many couples insist on and fight for. We told ourselves that we had reached the end of the path, now all that was left was to come to terms with our line in the salary table, the standard of living we had created for ourselves and hope that "it would be good".
Having no choice, we did what every other couple does - we saved shekel for shekel and tried to persevere.
The tension is not long in coming - the gap between the desired and the usual did its thing and the emotions came out more than once. But hey, we're not special. 50% of quarrels in any average home are on a financial issue.
When I look back I can say that we acted defensively, out of fear of being poor. And unfortunately, saving is all we knew.
Like many good things in life the change came to us entirely by chance. A couple of friends invited us to an Alon Ullman lecture on money. We did not think we had anything to lose so we went. I can not describe to you the amount of paradigms I broke that Friday morning. Of course we went on to the advanced courses and the team and made a huge change in our lives on so many levels. But I'm not here to promote courses.
The point is that in order to produce physical change, we first had to produce a change of consciousness. Suddenly we saw how the same path that ended at the end of the degree lengthened and became a path of personal development and financial development.
We quickly realized that one of the biggest causes of "emotional outbursts" was our stagnation. We all know what happens to water that stands for a long time. Conversely when there is flow and progress new life is created. Learning and development brought with them the bride, understanding and creating a common front.
Another important thing we understood, which is the key to our constant progress to this day - we have never created a consciousness gap between us. How many couples do you know that one of the spouses wants to invest, change the existing situation but the other party just does not understand why "risk" the money when you can save ?, Why live in rent when you can buy an apartment ?, And why get up in the morning to run when you can continue sleeping? When broadcasting on the same frequency there is no one to pull back and it is easier to produce constant progress.
After we finished the team we did not hesitate and immediately joined Project X. The transition was so clear and with perfect continuity. We took a huge step in our mental development and felt it was time to take the next step in our economic development. The tool we chose - real estate in the US.
I must point out that one of the big catalysts in the whole process was the people around us. We noticed that they are very different from many of the people we knew until then. Something burned in them, they wanted to make a difference in themselves and they were not ashamed to show it. Suddenly we felt we were part of a winning environment. I'm happy to say that since then, we've surrounded ourselves with people who are an inspiration to us. Our environment is part of the fuel that propels us forward.
The last thing I will share here is talking about coordinating expectations and setting common goals. Lately, I find myself investing a great deal of time in the evenings in the real estate business activity in the US. Time that came, among other things, at the expense of my family time with Liron and Alon. More than once Liron enters the office to advise me, give support and recalibrate my thoughts. Liron's ability to contain in this way stems from the reason that at the goal setting stage we coordinated positions and understood what we wanted to achieve. In doing so we knew what the role of everyone was in this journey.
Open discourse, understanding the world of the spouse and striving to move forward together for common goals are what have united us and strengthened us even in difficult times.
Bonus from me:
My wife and I use a format for setting couple goals called “Winning Couple Picture” Anyone who is interested in sharing is welcome to ask in the comments.
Have a great day!