My way, my freedom
#יםמהשבוי Vika Held-Kuzantsov, #Post1
Very nice! What an honor to be on this platform to share my path! Many thanks to @Lior Lustig and @Avi Ben Mordechay!
This week I will mainly tell about my life path, thus I will illustrate the stages of personal development and how it is actually possible to change from one end to the other. Of course, my story will also include US real estate, which is an essential part of my life these days.
For simplicity, first define "concepts". ?
I roughly divide my life so far into three main chapters:
Phase 1 is called the "cage race": I am married, a mother, a student/tenant, live in the city, Haifa area, later in Boston, USA. Very sensitive, offended and irritated easily, influenced by different people. I am not aware of any world except one, respectable by all accounts, which is a good basis for my curiosity and the desire to learn every day, the world of science and academia.
Financial management: tight, save up for a trip abroad once a year. The rest, waste with the "living today" approach! They avoid and even rule out options for bank or similar financing.
Length: 14 years
Step 2, which we will call "Opportunities": I am divorced, a mother, raising two children by myself, a tenant, living in a suburb in the north, working around the clock, enjoying work because by virtue of the position, my curiosity is satisfied. Learning to live in a new personal status, how to choose to smile and be happy, how to be less excited by people. She is starting to learn about investment options, talks at every opportunity about the quality of the environment, waste separation. Dreaming of creating significant value for a more beautiful world. At the same time, a comprehensive course for studying US real estate investments is starting.
Financial management: still tight, accumulating every year, this time for investments. The rest, also in the approach - profitable long-term investments. Funding sources in Israel are used for business leverage and personal development.
Length: 4 years
Step 3. What we will call "the freedom": I am happily divorced, independent, happy, calm and relaxed (most of the time?), connected with a great passion for entrepreneurship and real estate investments in the USA, my curiosity is celebrating! Every day discovers new aspects and possibilities and meets amazing people. Believes in the great potential of real estate investments as a way to the desired financial freedom and influence and help for a more beautiful world. Impact on the world, first, through contributions to cancer research or any other field. Second, a way of helping other people take steps for freedom of action/thought in general and financial freedom, in particular.
Finance management: tight, investments!
Length: Just recently?
We have reached this moment, I am in the "freedom" phase!
Every day comes out of the discount zone.
During the "race in the cage" stage I felt on the one hand in an honorable position, but on the other hand I didn't think it was necessary to share. An example that I just remember, as I work in a significant role, with cancer patients, I was asked in one of the meetings with friends, if I could come to an open day at the faculty in order to share my story with potential students. I answered in the negative. Most of my life, I didn't feel sure I had anything new to do.
During the "opportunity" phase, about six months ago, I started thinking about going independent in the field of US real estate entrepreneurship, a field that I connected with and believe in so much. I realized that this time I really want to share. Therefore, I must change my approach. Understanding is definitely the first step, but for a long time I didn't succeed, I didn't know how and what to write. In order to get started, I even consulted with amazing experienced people who were willing to donate their time. It still didn't help, I couldn't come up with themes and words...
Thank the universe, recently something has changed, so try and the words start to flow.
This week I hope to give value, as you have been dreaming for a long time. Maybe someone will learn something from my life path.
Shall we dive in?
My story from the end.
Me and my two children, Idan, 15, and Alice, 10, live in a green and pastoral area, in Moshav in the north of the country.
By education, Dr. of Biotechnology, graduate of the Technion, with more than a decade of experience in various positions in the US and Israel in the field of clinical research and regulation of medical equipment.
On July 1.07.22, 5, I finished my last position, after almost XNUMX years of meaning in a very nice company that really provided me with interest and a sense of family.
In the episode "The Cage Race", after graduation, I remember myself being satisfied with the status. But, in the chapter "Opportunity", in recent years I began to understand that in exchange for a not very high salary, I am selling my time.
It was hard to leave the rental life. Rather, there was a life with "security", when private arrangements, family, bank, mail, etc. are not resolved and postponed, when the combination of the words "I don't have time", "I'm short on time" - best friends. This is the familiar place, the safe place. The interest is starting to disappear, the person busy with real estate surfs too much for working hours...
And here, after a process of many months, I left for independence, to an unfamiliar and unsafe place, but where, in the last two years, my heart and soul simply fly for life! Many told me it was a brave move. I am honest with you, I feel that I have made the most correct step in the world, with all the difficulties of the beginning of building a business, a step that is undoubtedly beneficial for me, creates energies in me that I did not know before? A step for the future of my children and my family and increases my chances of contributing my humble part to a more beautiful world and also incidentally to reach the financial freedom that we all here dream of.
I started my journey in US real estate only about two years ago, but it feels like an eternity to me.
Important note: I do not encourage anyone to get up and leave everything recklessly, please only with consideration.
How did it all start?
Back in the "cage race" phase, in the snow of 2015, following on from my previous workplace, where I conducted clinical research in collaboration with Americans, I received an offer to work in Boston, USA. At that point, both my husband and I, at the time, had only been working for a few months in new positions. Despite this, we did not hesitate too much, we felt that this was the chance of a lifetime, which we only dreamed of, to reach the land of infinite possibilities.
The daughter was tiny, so she flowed with us easily, but the son, 9 years old, insisted on not coming, you can't leave your friends like that! The child was only convinced because we promised him a lot of free snow! ?
Indeed, we were lucky to catch the last snow. How simple it was to please him! Thank the universe for the unexpected snow in Boston, at the end of March 2016!
The children absorbed language at an unimaginable speed and really enjoyed life from a social point of view as well.
On the other hand, for us, it was not easy at all. There are quite a few people here who have made this transition and can testify, the first years in relocation are challenging and upsetting, and above all require the joining of forces of both spouses. If it doesn't happen, everything falls apart. This is how it ended in our case. We returned to Israel after a year and no more, as we had planned in advance, because our nest could not withstand the pressures.
The truth is, that's when I felt the most miserable and I had no idea how I would manage to pick myself up from such an unexpected event in life. Around me and my parents, families leave the Commonwealth of Nations, no one gets divorced! Giora Singer, who is hot, laughs at exactly this, you are invited to watch a short video attached here in the first comment.
The dismantling was as slow and calm as possible, in order to try to contain it emotionally and the main thing was not to hurt the children. Great luck, it seems for now that we succeeded (tap, tap, tap?!
And what about Gabai, in order to try to get out of my misery, in the meantime, I joined the network marketing company Bhip and at the same time I started to give gas in the topics of personal development, I read all the books of Tony Robbins, I went to the seminars of Alon Ullman and many others. All the greats recommended taking a mentor if you want to rise to the next personal level and shorten the process. I was looking for someone to accompany me closely, someone to connect with. It was not easy to find... Even in the network market I received a lot of support and despite this I was not able to recruit anyone and sell almost nothing.
One clear day when I was already quite desperate, I met on a walk with my children in the neighborhood, in the playground, by chance, (among us, today do you understand that nothing is by chance?), someone who after a short acquaintance with her and a little more inquiries, I realized - I found her, she will lift me up from the emotional bottom! The girl She was a parapsychologist. So, for about six months, I dedicated myself, I went through a process, we mainly explored my subconscious. At the end of the process, without a doubt, I was jumped several levels above myself compared to who I was about a year and a half ago, before moving to Boston.
I will add, while I am in the process, still at the emotional bottom, it was necessary to make a living. I ask myself, how will I pass job interviews in my current emotional state? The mentor says that I will start working in the profession only in 4 months. how does she know Calling! I am a bit of a believer and a bit of a skeptic...
The immediate solution - take off the hat of the experience and the doctor degree...
I joined Hot, as a technical service coordinator. It was close to home, a free head at the end of the shift. It suited me in this emotional time. Moreover, it turned out that the demon is not so scary. It was even funny to work alongside students and friends from different denominations, a good atmosphere, as if I was 25 again :-)
There, little by little, my energies began to return and here I am submitting a resume, looking for a position in the profession, ready to move the focus of my life from Haifa to the center of the country. After all, there is the chance to find the coveted job in the field of biotech.
Did I find the desired job? Did I move to the center of the country?
You're right, I started from the end! ?
Indeed, the universe arranged an interesting role for me exactly as I dreamed then, but in the far north. After a series of interviews, graphology tests and more, I entered an interesting and challenging position. It happened exactly 4 months from that moment...mystical? cosmic? down to earth!
In a few more months, I moved the center of life from the city of Haifa to Moshav, close to my workplace.
In this seat we live happily even today.
Tomorrow I will continue to tell how, under the circumstances of life, it was still possible for me to engage with all my might in US real estate.
And in the meantime, you are welcome to ask, comment. I would be very happy!
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