#יםמהשבוי Vika Held-Kuzantsov, #Post2
Monday of the week, hello! ?
The insight that thought creates reality was etched in my head back in the "cage race" phase and for that I thank the universe every morning.
Two illustrative examples,
Before I got an offer to work in the US, we were in the process of moving to Canada. The truth is, we really wanted to emigrate from the country, mainly due to the fact that we realized that even though we are both educated and earn quite well, we will not be able to afford to buy a house in Israel for many years to come. We preferred to immigrate to the USA, the land of opportunities. But there was no official and accessible route for this, so we only dreamed about it. Did the dream come true?
Again, while we were preparing to move to Boston, I had a private lease car, less than a year. As a new car, there was extended insurance that included receiving a price list in case of insurance. Why should I remember this!. But... before leaving the country, we puzzled over how to sell the car, when it is pledged to a leasing company. We really hoped we would find a buyer who would agree even though our time is short.
One evening I was driving after a day of work, suddenly the brakes didn't work (or maybe because of the fatigue while stopping at the traffic lights I got confused and pressed the gas instead of the brakes?), the vehicle with cosmic elegance at low speed, hit the vehicle in front... airbags deployed! I was scared! You know the experience, smoke starts to come out, not very pleasant, I felt for a moment that I might already be in heaven! I got out of the car, I didn't find any damage on it. It turned out that the impact was exactly at the sensor point of the airbags. I came out really cheap, just scared. And... get it? Total Lost vehicle. Receive the value of the new vehicle from an insurance company! The problem of selling the car has been solved in a big way!
If you are not convinced, I have a collection of additional examples, just ask?
Continued story from #Post1..
"Opportunity" stage, I have been working full-time for two years, very dedicated to the company, working around the clock. I don't have time for anything, work, children, the only thing that makes sure to continue to see content about personal development and investments and participate once every few months in seminars of several hours and workshops of several days. At that time, she was exposed to many avenues of investment. I am beginning to understand that it is best to focus on US real estate investments. Where to study? Lots of options, but how to choose? More than that, how can I study, when I don't have time? Another year passes.
2020, the world is moving forward, but a new epidemic is breaking out, Corona! I am a necessary worker, continue to make a living, thank the universe! Closed first, second, working from home.
At home, wow! Time is created! Going for a walk with the kids in Moshav in the afternoon, I see beautiful places, a few meters from the house... We live here for the third year and I discover these places for the first time! Very excited by this insight, what have I been missing all this time!
More than that, now I have time to start studying US real estate. Finding out that you learn through webinars and zoom, saves me trips to the center of the country! You immediately signed up for a long and most comprehensive course on this subject. Really enjoying the road and the people you meet in my new reality. I will expand on this and the failures that were springboards to success in the field of US real estate entrepreneurship later this week.
How are the children doing while I am away today?
Living in a moshav in the north: the daughter in the first grade, the son in the sixth grade and myself. We just passed, because of a good education system and a quality population. Nice, love the place! But, there is a problem, we moved away from grandparents, the girl is still small, who will pick her up from "Haverton" (that's what Zaharon is called in our settlement?).
I organize a family meeting, the children and myself, talk and decide that they are starting to be partners in running the house. The 11-year-old son receives a significant task - to get his sister out of the frame, every day at 16:30 p.m. I understand that motivation is required in order for the task to be carried out, I hope for the best.
Determine that he will be paid for the work. Asking what I prefer, a weekly payment or should I open a savings plan. Happily, the child chooses a savings plan.
When the time comes, she realizes that the boy takes his sister out of the frame every day and on time, very quickly begins to trust him, really maybe ostentatious on my part, but there was no need to even mention it.
In retrospect, he later discovers that it is a psychological move, to give a child a responsible task, if the child succeeds, he knows he can! This gives the child self-confidence and independence.
At dinners we share experiences, they don't always cooperate, there are more successful days and less, but I often remind them that I am alone, and that they are my partners. Of course, their responsibilities are minimal, for example, taking out trash, making the bed (do you still remind them of this from time to time?), but over time they learned to cook, wash, hang and take down laundry on their own. A lot of people help me with this.
In addition, life in Moshav is very comfortable, there are many community events, mutual support is accepted between the parents in transporting the children to classes, class events, etc. The children learn to live not only for themselves, but for society. At the school, the children are allowed to be the leaders, each in the field in which they are strong. For example, the children who are the active organizers of the events in the schools and in the community. At school, you also create many opportunities to perform on stage and present your talent to an audience of parents and children.
While the children return home, my daughter Rav meets with friends, the son spends a lot of time in front of the computer games.
I allow him and I even stopped fighting and restricting.
After we returned from the US, it was very important to me to preserve the English he had acquired. I looked for solutions, for example, English-speaking families that we could meet with, but I didn't find any. One day the son was playing "Fortnite" again (today he is playing other farms, it seems that they are progressing more?) I heard that he was talking to children from abroad, speaking English with them. Bingo! I realized that this is probably the way to preserve the language. We don't have a TV at home, so his chance is here. It turns out today that I was not wrong.
These days, the son usually takes the bus everywhere. The daughter knows how to go to bed alone and even wake up in the morning, organize herself and go out into the setting.
I will share more, this year the son moved me, he earned his first money by giving detailed lessons in "math". Next year, he goes up to the XNUMXth grade, starts mentoring in a youth movement and working in "Hevraton".
Thus, my sweet children, allow me to continue living life, manage my real estate business and take part in workshops and community events held by the Rabbi in the center of the country.
How to manage less pleasant cases
We live truly in cooperation, calmly and comfortably, but of course, from time to time difficult or frustrating events come.
So, for example, recently the daughter caught a vomiting virus. You must know each other. She started vomiting at night non-stop. It's nauseating, it hurts, the girl is hysterical, doesn't stop crying. I'm next to her, trying to calm down. I'm not calm myself, how can I help? You remember the insight I learned in the last workshop. During a difficult or frustrating event, first accept it, then start looking for light. how?
When my poor girl yelled "it hurts" and cried hysterically I asked her to try yelling instead of "I feel good", just change the words.
After all, thought creates reality, but if the thought creates a destructive reality, it is advisable to replace it with, for example, positive statements. You probably know it, to convince yourself that you will succeed before the test with the help of "I succeed!" , shout and mumble endlessly.
Let's go back to my girl, she really doesn't like it, so she probably didn't immediately agree, but when she succeeded, she started shouting "I like it!" And little by little the voice began to calm down, complete relaxation came in about two minutes, the girl fell asleep.
The last workshop I attended: 3 days full of personal development, with Doron Liebstein.
Tomorrow I will tell about my path to independence in real estate entrepreneurship in the USA